LITTLE KNOWN FACTS ABOUT WOMEN WHO WERE LEFT FOR AN OW.
Life is weird. Therefore, you are going to be thrown into situations over and over where the only men you are attracted to, are married men. GOOD MEN. No one wants to talk about it because its not a nice thing to talk about. AND ITS SO TEMPTING (no one wants to talk about that, either.) its tempting, because after all, it was done to you, and the reasons given to you were that he was unhappy, and she felt she had the right, so really if thats true, dont YOU have the right? YOU like this good man and YOU see how wonderful he'd be and YOU would appreciate him so much and SHE doesn't know what she has.
WHEN THIS HAPPENS TO YOU, RED ALERT.
If you fall into this, your nothing better than the OW who caused so much pain, and beleive me, the situation isnt different. PLEASE DONT. its so easy and its not because your bad its because your not FEELING and your NUMB and your HURT and your LONELY and theres this MAN who is so good and so nice and o WONDERFUL, and is it YOUR FAULT hes married? he CANT be happy if hes hanging out so much with you, is it REALLY STEALING? After all it was done to you. Perhaps this is how the world works. Perhaps this is your second chance and though it isnt perfect perhaps this is just the way it is.
RED RED RED ALERT
DONT DO TO ANYONE ELSE WHAT WAS DONE TO YOU. Walk.. AWAY.. FAST. you have gone through SO MUCH ALREADY, the last thing you need is to now be painted as the destructive homewrecker and hated by someone elses kids when you have your OWN to deal with your OWN family crisis.
in fact dont WALK... RUN.
its better to be single for life and yet living in integrity than to stooping to her level and stealing a familie's joy. REMEMBER: happiness is never build on the corpses of a family. Their ghosts will haunt... just as you hope yours does, to YOUR OW. so DONT become one and DONT justify it EVER.
YOU WANT TO HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH and that doesnt involve lying and cheating and becoming a female version of your ex or a clone of the horrid OW who wrecked YOUR family.
The ATTRACTION to a married man is obvious: hes a good guy hes a great husband hes a provider hes a good father, you want all that and you lost it. WELL YA CANT TAKE IT. Remember thats how the OW thought. your BETTER.
SINGLE men over 40 are almost impossible to find (who are reasonably normal and trustworthy) and its hard, but beleive me, if your a good woman an you want to lead a great example to your kids keep your self respect and tell that married man to CALL YOU WHEN HES SINGLE. get onto dating sites if your lonely, by all means hook up with whom you can, but remember THE ATTRACTION TO A MARRIED MAN IS ONLY BC ITS WHAT YOU DONT HAVE AND WHAT YOU WANT.
second marriages of cheating partners fail for a reason. I say this bc since my breakup every man who has ever shown a slight interest in me is VERY MARRIED. and I'd be INHUMAN to say I didnt think about it and toy with it. but at the end of the day, you gotta live with yourself and you have enough to live with already.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
