Yes I do think once you are separated, what's the point of snooping? I don't think you can call THAT cheating, now that's he "out" about it. BUT you can sure factor it in as to whether you see efforts to reconcile from him and honey, dating OW is not much of an effort at reconciling.
I'm confused...I don't know if there is OW, but, it seems likely. Do you mean there is no point in me snooping (because I don't bother)?
I hear you on the EU thing...
As for us being "done," is he really with all of the contacting and hanging around. Or perhaps he is a true narcissist and is just using me to pump him up...
I wish I had money for therapy. I don't know if you've ever read about narcissists but it sure sounds like H and would explain my participation as I am apparently the type who goes for such men and the cycle of me pulling away and him freaking out and wanting back in fits. But anyway, maybe WAS are often narcissists, who knows?
I'm spent. That fear thing is making more sense to me. Rattles me at my core. I can't analyze anymore. I'm exhausted.
Thanks for your help. I will try to start with a fresh outlook tomorrow. I want to run for the hills, I feel so enmeshed with H emotionally, financially and physically. That is why it feels like tearing apart...I should stop now. I just go round and round.
