Thanks 25...you really are dedicated to helping alot of people here on this sight and I really appreciate you taking the time to post so much. I like your "tough love" attitude and it really does give me strength.. Is there a thread to your story...just interested in your own history. I wish I could figure out how to use that quote feature...it would make things easier for me to reply, but I really felt the "life is short" philosophy hit home. I think this is also what is part of what is going on with H. He said to me (during my begging stage) that he was afraid that he would continue to be unhappy and waste years of his life and mine in an unhappy marraige. Which was hard to hear considering I wasn't entirely unhappy and we do have great times. Ups and downs, yes. Of course. But I truly believe it is nothing so bad that we can't fix. Now he tells me that I have never done anything wrong and blames me for nothing...which I see as a problem. If there is nothing I could do differently to change for the better...what is the point of DB and what is the point of trying to make him see what he is missing?? The one thing he told our T (he went to only 2 sessions 1 with me before he left, and one alone since then) was that he didn't think that I was interested in his job. Should I show more interest when we talk now? Also, I know I have been neglegent with the finances. I don't overspend or anything like that...but I fo let the weight of finances fall on his shoulders as he does all the bills and makes the most $$. I know this stresses him out. How do I become more involved now that he is out?? I mean, i guess I will have to no matter what right? Ugh. It is late and I am tired of analyzing...if anyone can tell me what they think, that would be great. How do I 180 when he tells me I have no blame in him leaving me???
