Had a stressful day yesterday.........
Firstly our D's school play was on in the morning. Me, my Mum and my H were there; he sat 4 rows behind s and refused to have anything to do with us;refused to look at us or speak to us. he was making a point of laughing loudly in places; just to show us that he is fine and happy? Chatting with the woman next to him about video cameras as if he hadnt a care in the world. Our D was happy to see us both there which is the main thing but for the life of me I wish I knew why he is acting so immature.

I was then needing to go to the main courthouse in town to talk about access with my L, I was in one room with her and my H was in another with his L. It was extremely stressful and difficult. My H wants to have 50/50 straight down the middle and is wanting to sleep/stay in our home 2 nights a week even though he is living with OW. He also wants to take our D7 one night a week outside the home overnight, at either of his sisters houses r his ex wifes house to facilitate D seeing her half sister.
I was feeling bullied and pressured to make a decision before our main court appearance next Monday so that the judge doesnt have to make the decision for us.
The simple fact is that:

I dont think that its appropriate for D to SLEEP overnight in XW's house even for the sake of sibling relationship.

I DONT think that it is right that my H can desert me and our D and then walk back in and sleep the night and spend time here.

hey have since put in a ridiculous trial parenting plan t me via email; a two week rota system where he is seeing her 4 days and the three; only now sleeping in he house once a week (just goes to show how he has no real interest in being anywhere near here) but putting her to sleep (9pm) in the house regularly.

I became upset last night. It shows that my H has every intent on seeing our D as much as he can which is great for her of course. It is even the case that he believes that I should see her less as I am an unfit mother and a psychotic.

This says volumes to me abut the way he feels about me. This is not a case when a WAH leaves the W and D without any interest, he just wants nothing t do with me or our house, he hates me and despises me and wants nothing to do with my life again.

Yet surely acting like this is a direct insult and rejection to our D?

I am personally hurting today; I feel so rejected as a woman. Yet there is a part of me that really believes that I am worth more than this; that I have wonderful friends who love me and see my worth.I am a good mother and am trying my best to look after her as best as I can under these circumstances.

He has forged on with his new life, def wants D as a majr part of it but me, our house, our R and our life, well, wants nothing t do with it.

Its hard to think of it as pure MLC when he wants to see our D so much. But the common thought here amongst people is that he has lost the run of himself and has flipped it.

He has so much anger and pride. He wants control over me and will stop at nothing.

I miss the H that I knew but have nothing to say to this new version of him. We are strangers at his insistence and maybe it is better this way? Is he WAS or MLC or both?

ADVICE? Thanks for all of your feedback so far everyone........