Hi - I also had an affair and I to would never ever of gotten over the OM if I still had contact with him and I would never of seen the value of my Marriage ( which I lost ).
She has to change jobs. I know that she is still in her mind entangled with this guy. she is probably up and down because he might of moved on and this upsets her seeing it, she might be good when she thinks she has a future sometime down the line with him. OM behaviour towards your W could well be dictating hermoods. You or her are not going to know anything until OM is completely out of the picture.
