WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

Did any of them pursue her afterwards and try to change? If not, then I can see what she became the WAS.

I don't know about the first one for sure, but reasonably sure he did not. In fact, she got sole custody as he wanted nothing to do with their daughter (which was part of the problem as he wasn't ready to do the daddy/baby thing). She says that he has a feeling that he hasn't changed one bit.

The second one definitely has not changed nor pursued her. Although he had just sent her flowers last week, first time since she moved out back in Dec. She said that she was annoyed as she felt obligated now, but then decided to just send him an email to say thank you and dropped anymore discussion/conversation after that. She said that he has not changed nor tried to show her that he was trying.

She said that she does see what I'm trying to change and do. I asked if it would have made a difference for her and she said that she felt that when she left, the "window" was closed. Now in her case, she doesn't call her husband nor initiate any contact outside of things related to their son. She says that her husband tries to chit chat/inititate conversations, but she just hangs up.

I do have to be a little cautious of what I talk to her about as she works for me. I know, very awkward, especially in the beginning when I couldn't talk about it without breaking down in tears. I couldn't imagine what I would do if my boss did that in front of me - I have more than half the company (over 250 people) reporting up through my global organization. Fortunately, she handled it really well by saying that when we talk about these things, she says its CIPA the person. Outside of those discussions, it's CIPA the boss. Another fine line I need to balance.