I've come full circle #26

[kat727]

Good question. I think I am about a year and a half ahead of you in the scheme of things. I found out about the EA right after Father's Day 3 years ago. He moved out that November right before Thanksgiving, came over all the time, lots of family time and occasional "together time". I started going to a C in September of 07 and he filed for divorce right before Thanksgiving. I didn't find out until December. I was never even served. A "friend" told me it was in the paper.

I was severely depressed from finding out that he filed until mid-March. Started reading and eventually posting here. I ended C October of 08. D was final July 30, 2008. I am doing tons better now. In fact sometimes I can even say I am great. My boss told me he knew that the past two years have been horrible for me but he feels that he can give me even more to do, he feels that comfortable about how I am doing. He said he even feels a huge weight being lifted off of his shoulders!

Most of my anger/frustration is in regards to the situation he creates for the kids. He doesn't think about them or their needs, just wants to appear as a good parent. Like I said, I can't change him just me.

Things are far from perfect. I am working full time and raising the kids pretty much by myself and some things just have to give. I need to get the kids really helping this summer and we will get even closer to our goals for the house. We are getting there.

kat