WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

It was a tough dinner/baseball outing. Not really from the relationship side, but my 7 year old fell off the monkey bars while he was playing there before my 3 year old's baseball game. My wife had to take him to the emergency room to get his wrist checked out - fortunately it was only sprained.

It started off a little down for me as well as when I got to the park with my boys, my 7 year old told me he remembered our conversation and will do as we talked about. I told him that I was sorry that I had made him feel sad about the way I talked to him and know that he is still a kid and didn't understand about all the grown up stuff. He said that he didn't want to talk about it anymore as it was making him sad again. Ouch.

My 7 year old did his homework at the park while we waited for my wife to show up so we could eat dinner. My 3 year old showed me some pictures he made at school/day care. My wife showed up and we ate dinner. She looked beat. I told her she looked tired and asked if she was ok. She said that she was up crying till 12:30 last nite and got up at 5:30. She said she was really having a down day yesterday. I told her that this situation was tough on everyone. Then I tried to shift the topic to something more upbeat/non-relationship.

We chatted for a while. After the boys were done eating, they asked if they could play on the climber. We said yes. My wife and I chatted as I asked how her day was and tried to keep the discussions light and upbeat. Then my 3 year old came running back that my 7 year old was crying and needed help. I ran over there as my wife and 3 year old tried to keep up.

I walked my 7 year old back to the pavillion so he could sit in the shade as we checked him out. He said that his wrist and back hurt. He seemed ok after a while when he and my 3 year old asked about going to play again. So the 4 of us walked to the climber. I chatted with my wife some more when she said that she really wasn't looking forward to the birthday party for my boys this Sat. She said she was worried about what my family was going say/do. I told her that I will make sure that they don't confront her like they did last time.

That's when my 7 year old came back saying his wrist was still hurting. So we decided that my wife would take him to the emergency room so I could stay with my 3 year old at baseball. My 7 year old then started crying saying that he still wanted to go home with me tonite. I said that would be fine and me and his brother will stay up till he comes home.

Then my wife's mother came to see my 3 year old play baseball. It was awkward since my wife had left for the hospital. I tried to be polite and chat litely but she didn't seem to want to talk.

I gave up trying and just focused on my 3 year old.

When my 7 year old finally came back (my wife brought him home from the hospital), my wife and chatted as she told me that it was just at sprain and what the doctor recommended. I thanked her for her help and that I was glad that she was there tonite. She then left to go back to her apartment. Ironically, my 3 year old didn't even want to say goodbye to her, nor my 7 year old. Don't know if she noticed or not.

She did call tonite and talked about non-relationship stuff. Mostly about the emergency room visit and to ask how my 7 year old was doing. After a bit, I just said that I had expected that she would have been in bed already since she looked so tired at baseball tonite. I asked if she had gotten a second wind. She said no, but I think that she took it as a hint that I was about to say goodbye so she said that she was going to let me go and talk to me later. I just said goodnite.

I didn't ask if we were still going to do lunch tomorrow or not. If she calls, great. If not, I'll be fine.

Oh well, the confusion and drama continues....