K I dont have any other ideas but I do want to say that you are handling your H very well It seems to me that when the R with OW doesnt go well, he comes to you probably good to listen and say nothing about her even if he says he doesnt trust her so it looks like just continue keeping the door open and promote those positive talks maybe if the OW fades away, your H may be more willing to really try and it is good that H is already seeing truth about her
Upsides H filed a long time ago then he never served her and dropped th case they are currently working on R and in counseling hang in--you never know when the light bulb may turn on for H peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow