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I dont have any other ideas
but I do want to say that you are handling your H very well
It seems to me that when the R with OW doesnt go well, he comes to you
probably good to listen and say nothing about her even if he says he doesnt trust her
so it looks like just continue keeping the door open and promote those positive talks
maybe if the OW fades away, your H may be more willing to really try
and it is good that H is already seeing truth about her

Upsides H filed a long time ago then he never served her and dropped th case
they are currently working on R and in counseling
hang in--you never know when the light bulb may turn on for H
peace


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow