WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

As for your friend who was the WAW twice, have you ever asked her why she left both her H? While she offers and interesting insight for you, your W is much more open to a reconciliation than your friend was it seems.

I had asked my WAW friend about that. Her first husband they got married because she was pregnant. She said that she had broken up with him quite a few times, never going out for more than 3 months at a time before breaking up. But when she got pregnant, she thought she would "do the right thing" and get married. Turned out he was an alcoholic who would drink a case of beer and bottle of wine every nite.

The second time around, she left because the day after they got married, she said he turned into the typical male chavenistic pig that said that a woman's place was in the kitchen and treated her like a second class citizen. She said it was such a drastic change where she felt like she was put on a pedastal before the marriage that she was ready to leave after the first month. But then she got pregnant so she tried to stick it out for her son. She said that she told him that she was leaving if things didn't change but he just laughed in her face because he didn't believe her. So after 4 years of that, she left.