Wow what an animated debate this is turning out to be.
I think a combination of what DQ and robx says can work as both have their pros and cons. There is no complete answer.
The main problem I have with the dating is that it is like issuing an ultimatum. Plus it does go against what I believe as a marriage and would make me seem hypocritical.
I don't bring up R talks and only brought up things that bothered me when I couldn't take certain actions any more. Trust me, I'm no one's doormat. I've told her several times that if she didn't like what I was saying, she was more than welcome to leave. I told her that while I loved her, I didn't need her. The last time I said that was about a month ago and I really expected her to go running out the door at that point. Instead she stayed and even thanked me for talking to her.
After that talk, things were turning around for us. She was happier and more open. Then it was like another switch was turned on a couple of weeks ago and she went back to being distant.
Strange.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
