Rob, I have written nearly 1200 posts here. I invite you to read some of my earlier ones. I have clearly said, several times to everyone, that it was all my fault to cheat and I was a horrible wife and I understand why my husband hated me by the end of it. You can think whatever you want of the one or two posts of mine you read here and there, and I do feel bad that I may come across like a cheating skank. I understand that's how it looks and have come to terms with that.
To come to terms with it, I have spent all my life since my divorce studying to understand how I could have gone so wrong, why, how not to do it in the future, and have dealt with all my personal demons. The brief post above is only one tiny sliver of the picture, and I do not feel like it was my ex-h's fault that I cheated at all, in the least.
I have read and studied the topic of cheating for years now, and I do have a good understanding of it, from the inside and now, the out.
I wish you didn't feel the need to call me out and attack me, but what the heck...I'm sorry that you choose to do that, there's nothing I can do about it.
And finally - yes I agree I was a dumbass idiot skank to ever get involved with any of those OM's. I have figured out this part of myself and know what's up with it. That's why I want to help people understand their waywards...I *know* a lot about what goes on in their heads, unfortunately.
Stuck - I believe the first affair lasted about one year. And then I still worked with him 4 years after that.
