Actually the LBS makes more changes then the WAS, especially in MLC.
This is why we have to keep moving forward, working on ourselves, deal with our own issues, make changes and more then anything FORGIVENESS.
When the MLC'er comes home, they are different BUT they have NOT made the same changes the LBS has made.
I think that in some ways the MLC'er remains stagnant, and we have grown in leaps and bounds. Not all of them will catch up.
My relationship with my Husband is different then it was before. Some things are better, some are the same.
Some things are character flaws that will never change unless he works on his own issues, things that have always been there but were magnified in MLC.
I hate the fact that there are gaps.....
Things he still doesn't remember, things he doesn't want to remember.
But we are rebuilding, making new memories.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
