First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your back, love. Ouch! If they are at fault, maybe you could at least get your tuition paid or something...
As for BF, you said: I
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am sick of DBing, why cant I just be honest with him?
...and his recent reaction, as well as what you've reported from Jody, tell it all.
First of all, you aren't being dishonest, but you are just not pursuing him. If you go after him, he runs. So, unfortunately, you have to be mysterious and not always ready to go when he's ready for you.
It seems like a game and I guess it is in a sense, but he's not ready to have a relationship (already said several times), so you have to continue to do your thing w/out worrying about him.
You also said you were surprised that he left a message and then rang you later. Well, I'm not. I hope you can see why this happened.
You didn't pick up. He couldn't reach you. He didn't know what you were doing and he was curious. Your inactivity led him to think constantly about you. He became so consumed w/talking w/you that he couldn't wait and called you again.
You are triggering "attraction" in him. This is very important. He'll be attracted to the independent you and the mysterious, wonderful woman you are. Don't rush, but be patient.
Hang back and let HIM wriggle around a bit like you've been doing over the past year or so. It is his turn to wonder, want, and miss you.
If you were to "be honest w/him" he'd run and you'd be back to square one again. That is the OLD Ali and the old Ali doesn't live here any more.
Continue to do what you are doing, but now is not the time to let him know how much you miss him. That will come later and even when it does happen that you two reconnect, you'll still need to keep some of that mystery alive, so keep practicing it now, my dear.
