OK - the first one reminded me of a coffee date I had with a guy I met online. We met at Tim's. He showed up about 20 min late. Seems there are 2 Tim's at the same intersection (go figure). Seemed irritated with me that I had gone to the "wrong" one. Then we went to get coffee. He asked me if I wanted a donut with it and before I had a chance to answer he said "Nah - you don't need one". He had told me this was his first ever online date. Well, I'm going to bed he never ever got a second date with anyone if that's what he was like. My date was short. I ended it after drinking my coffee quickly.
Tom, I only had a minute to reply earlier but I just want you and others to know that all this silliness of the past few days really is me working on me! All this Yahoo Personals stuff is part of me emotionally working through the fact that I am a single man. It's one thing to rationally know this but it's another to accept it emotionally too. This is what I've discovered in the last year and a half, that the intellectual doesn't always mesh with the emotional. So my ranting was not just me being a clown (although I do like to make others laugh) it was part of a process. Somehow, I'm feeling kind of good about being single right now, I'm getting stronger I think. When I can look at things like Yahoo Personals and start to think how I might reply, even if I'm not actually going to, that is a step in the right direction. Anyway, thanks for stepping in to kick my ass...I was pretty much out of steam anyway!
I take care of my brothers on this site.. I know you guys and care so much for you. YOU all have let me explore myself and learn about me.. and in turn.. I have learned about YOU all.. I think its the reverse actually. It could be both now that I think about... Anyway..
As the Neil Young song goes.. There Comes a Time..
You know Wii.. There is nothing wrong with that.. it is a natural process thingy , I think ?
However, when we get things from others and not from ourselves.. or things from others that make ourselves.. then well.. it screwes up the entire healing process.
There becomes a dependency issue on what others think of us.. or we go to a place like this website to make us feel ok about who we are as a person. This should not be.
And we .. WE know better about that. Why ? Because it is about us.. OURSELVES and who we are.
We need nothing but ourselves .. and in a healthy way.. someone else.. but not really needing them.. Just someone else we enjoy being with and caring about. Mutually, eh ?
Tom, just one more dating workshop idea...I swear! "What to do when she and your blow up doll just don't get along" OK, that's it...really....honest...I'm done!
