One Last Chance to Make it Real

[pauld2100]

well just a thought didn't know you were trying that....

Maybe you might have to got to the extreame! Dress up in hard core clothing? Ask her to spank you?!






Just kidding of coarse! I remember once I took flowers to my W when she getting her nails done... She was so stunned! For a moment her face turn so red... All the girls working there were oriental but they were all whispering to each other and my W was the center of attention for a while and she loved it....

[MrBond]

Hey PDT,

I got a question. After your W's PA, did she shift back and forth from being friendly and open to distant and detached? My W seems to be doing that right now.'

Just looking for your insight.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yes. The mood swings gradually faded over a couple of months' time, but they were DRAMATIC at first -- from wholly contrite/remorseful one day, to full of venom and entitlement the next.

[MrBond]

And was that only after total NC with OM?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yes. That's a must, otherwise the withdrawal "clock" will reset to 0:00 with each and every contact.

She did have one slip-up -- about 3 weeks into it -- but she self-confessed, and there were no other incidents.

[whatdidido]

You sound disheartened and angry/hurt all in one. Whenever you give up, you don't respond to my posts.

I thought I said yesterday I'm taking a bit of a break. In case I didn't:

"I'm taking a bit of a break." I don't think the heavy stuff's gonna come down for quite some time now . . .

Okay.

[karen43]

Pup, did your W schedule an IC appointment yet? MC? Curious to see if she will follow through, although I hope so for you and your family's sake. Karen

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I asked her about it today, via text message. She said that her friend was out of town until Saturday, and that she was going to ask her for the IC's phone # this coming weekend.

[pauld2100]

I hope you know PDT that I was just trying to help!!... Just lighten it up... I know it's hard!

BTW Dancequeen

Have a question about your sitch, when did you finaly hit the breaking point and realize you wanted to be with your H? Was it over time or did something strike you one day? A wake up call?

[DanceQueen]

Paul...my story is long and kinda complicated, but we are divorced now, and I regret that we did not do all we could to save our marriage. I - however - always wanted our marriage to work when we separated, and begged him to pursue me. Apparently, most WAW's don't want you to pursue, but I did. The problem was, he was done with me by then, so there was no desire on his side to pursue.

I am in a 5 year long relationship since then, and we are getting married in August. So if you read me talking about my current relationship and feelings, this is with my new partner.

I did not know my new partner before I left my husband, btw. He was not an OM of mine.

DQ