Kalni, I'm sorry I haven't posted to you in a while (I have been following along).
Glad to hear you are feeling better today!
Just wanted you to know that I was impressed with the things you had to say to your husband yesterday. I hope with all my heart that you were somehow able to get through to him. It's frustrating when all we want from our spouse is answers and he/she is unable (or won't) give them to us.
I have to tell you that I agree fully with what Bill wrote to you the other day. There is nothing wrong with having expectations or setting standards for yourself. Personally, I do not feel that you have asked anything of your husband that any other wife would not expect. Maybe I am wrong here, but I think we all want a man who is going to spend time with us (both with and without the kids)...a man who is interested in us romantically/intimately and shows us he is....a man who is interested in our daily activities...a man who expresses his love for us. I may have missed something, or maybe I am wrong in what you are looking for; but, I do not see your husband giving you these things.
It takes TWO to make a marriage work...TWO people who are willing to put in the time and effort...I don't see but ONE in your situation....YOU!! It's time for HIM to do some of the work. He is the one who came to you MONTHS ago wanting to reconcile....he should be treating you like a princess. He should be doing whatever it takes to "win" you over. You have told him what you want/need. Now, it's up to him to meet those wants/needs.
Kalni, like all of us here, you deserve the BEST!!
