Thanks DQ. Funny I was just about to buzz you on your post to get your insight.
I totally agree with you and I do think about it...alot. The thing is this guy retires in a year and is moving away after, so I wonder if laying down that ultimatum would drive her away if she's thinking "well he'll be gone soon.". Trust me, that's where I'm on the fence with this.
I would have laid it down sooner if I didn't see any improvement in my R with her. But now with her slowly withdrawing, I'm not sure what to think. It's kind of like when you tell your WAS what their problem is or what you believe they need to do, they turn it around and call it controlling.
In your sitch when you had your bout of infidelity, after the OM was out of the picture, did you bounce back and forth from friendly to depressed?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
