Jeff.. I think you are absolutely right, except.. I believe he is done with Helen. He really does have integrity and he wouldnt have moved back toward me if he had feelings for her, or they were in much contact still (I doubt it)? Hopefully she will move on quick with a new man! And yes, slower = better results !!
Simon - where have you been!? I am luckily, as busy as a man with 6 heads and he loves to hear about my art (was also SUPER supportive and thinks I am the best in the class!!), so I appear to be cool and getting on with my life, when in reality, I miss him dreadfully and want to shower him with kisses!
Kat.. I didnt sleep with anyone until I fell in love (with the Piscean!) at 19, so I have strong morals too! Just not to do with M, but that was my upbringing. I think I will stay over Saturday night I have decided, it will be lovely to have another snuggle Sunday morning, but I am NOT ML to him yet, no way. He also said he was scared and wanted it to be special (phew!). THanks for offering to come look after me, yes, it does hurt !!
Naej, the accident really wasnt my fault, the technician shouldnt have left the wood there and it would have been much worse if I hadnt lent forwards just as it fell.. it would've landed on my head otherwise !!
Hey ITH...Wow, you still dealing with the hot/cold after 6 months !? Blimey! Thanks for saying this is normal ! I agree you cant just have no expectations, but its good to not take it personally. I think you are right, I wont take all of Jody's advice and avoid an R talk at this time! Let him start it if he feels he wants one.
Hey Lisa.. ahh I thought of you when I said that, so thankyou!! Yes, is that the 'Princess Diana' technique!?? Look up under lashes, smile provocatively then look away again !?
Cyrena.. thank you SO much, once again. Your posts are a beacon of clarity in a confusing world. I like the reassurance you give me (like ITH) that this is 'normal'. THat is also a good point that he NEEDS to go through all of these stages. Yes, he didnt leave me becuase I got ill alot, he left me for all the reasons you stated and those made him unable to cope with my illness/vunerability. He was v depressed. You made me snap out of thinking he might go again, or meet someone new.. in fact, it took alot to come back to me, so he must have REALLY thought about it. We just have a long road ahead of us, as you say. Please stick with me on this journey !!
