Just my 2 cents, but your W sees you the way you're seeing yourself ... as a Mr. Mom. What she's looking for is a "MAN". The reason I say that is because of the way she's been disrespecting you. For some reason, our WASs enjoy belittling the LBS and making them appear to be the bad guy.
The first thing they do is to do what a bully would do. To start seeing the victim as someone of a lesser value than them. You'll find it all over the boards here. Well the first thing you need to do is "man-up" and get the respect from her back. You need to take the control away from her and put it back in your hands. She's controlling your life like a puppet master or a worm wriggling around on a hook. Dig in and put your foot down.
The thing that stops us LBSs from asserting ourselves is the same thing that is driving our WAWs...FEAR. We are afraid of pushing them away or getting them mad so we don't say anything. In the meantime, they walk all over us like a bully. Well, the one way to stop bullying behavior is to stand up to it.
You'll find out from other posters on the boards that once the LBS stood up to their spouses by laying boundaries and taking back their control, the spouse would often start to soften.
So no begging, pleading, crying, etc. and take back the control of your life. Start applying the DB principles by changing what you can and want to change. Make mini goals and take it one step at a time. Change takes time.
Become a better man than the OM she's infatuated with right now. Become larger than life for you and your kids. You can do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
