Don't pay attention to what your W believes or doesn't believe right now. My W was planning to leave me for her boss twice her age and M. After I kept berating her about the moral implications of what she was doing did she later show some kind of remorse and told me that she knew it was wrong and that it would not have worked out and that he would have cheated on her eventually.
Call it the "chemicals" in the brain or the feeling of being in love, whatever. Your W is following the same script all the WAWs are reading from. When all this madness started for me, my W was saying and accusing me of the worst things. Now when I repeat back to her what she told me, she acts shocked and says she doesn't remember half of what she said. How convenient.
I've been where you are. Where you feel like you have nothing left to give and that's understandable. Each time I had to find a little grain of faith and strength within myself. I learned the Stockdale Paradox from Coach and decided to not look at a timeframe, but to take each step one day at a time. And most importantly, I laid down a boundary and gave my W loving detachment.
It's hard when you think your W is with OM, but it comes down to what it is you want. If you want to continue to save your M, then it's never too late. If you've given all you can, there's no shame in stopping the pain. Either way, take away the lesson that this has made you a stronger individual.
Good luck.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
