have you thought about taking your D to C? I think both of you can benefit from it even if your H is oblivious to the damage he's causing.
Even with my W, she's caused so much pain and hurt and probably knows it, but is thinking about herself for now. That's why it's so important for those of us LBSs in a M with someone in MLC to buckle down and close the storm doors as our WASs storm outside.
It sucks that we have to be the ones to hold the moral high ground, but it's the choice we've made and we do our best to weather it.
I can tell you're getting stronger every day and that's great! Hang in there. I continue to pray for you and your D.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.