BTW- When H left he told me, "I tested you, that one time and you didn't do x and that was it." And then it was something else I said or didn't do. There were like 15 final straws and they still keep coming. NO, too simplistic. Definitely clues into what they want but you are not a frickin' dog that needs to be jumping through hoops and passing her little "tests." IMO. It is especially cruel when it is after the fact. AND, perhaps she knows a little too well how invested you are in getting her back. Some people will work that for their own ego gratification.
You don't want a relationship that is that precarious, do you?
