I agree with that quote. It doesn't say anything about setting boundaries, or about how long affairs last however. It just talks about once you've said your peace, don't keep hammering them with it, and I agree with that.
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I understand what you are saying, but I am confidant that whatever might be going on with the OM, it is destined to be short term. She is Christian, he is Jewish. He is getting laid off soon and will no longer be working at the same company. He lives 45 miles away. She has little in common other than he being a sympathetic ear as a co-worker.
OK then. But consider:
- my wife was 47, and her OM was 28;
- my wife is upper-middle-class, and her OM lived at home with his parents;
- my wife was always a pretty devoted Christian; OM was agnostic;
- my wife was always very particular about her appearance (to a fault); her OM was unattractive, had horrible acne, and drove around in a beat-up old pick-up truck with the side-view mirror broken off;
- he was becoming a cop soon, and would no longer be working at the same company;
- she had little in common with him other than being a sympathetic co-worker.
In fact, if you will study affairs, you would find that in MOST of them, the cheating spouse "trades down."
