Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

But, I'm trying to bust a divorce here too, and hopefully save our marriage. Nothings happening on that front...nothing good anyway!

I meant that in reference to your saying "Nothings happening on that front".

There is a teeny tiny babystep at least towards ending the hostility, which is a necessary first step.

I thought DB'n was about busting a divorce!

It is. Healing yourself and making yourself better is essential to busting the divorce. Until you're healed, and until you've fixed the reasons you got where you are, you won't be in a position to reconcile.

Take what I say with a grain of salt though, look where I am!

I understand what you meant now. There's still plenty of anger there on her part! Probably will be for some time too!

That all makes sense! "Until you're healed, and until you've fixed the reasons you got where you are, you won't be in a position to reconcile." That's just awesome futureunknown!

Hey man, we're all here because, at least in most cases...we messed up!