Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

Page 215-216 in Divorce Remedy, on LRT with infidelity:

"You need to gather all your strength to stop talking about the affair. In fact, it behooves you to stop asking questions about their relationship completely. The more you ask, the more your spouse will feel pressured. The more your spouse feels pressured, the more s/he will want to flee. Control yourself."

I understand what you are saying, but I am confidant that whatever might be going on with the OM, it is destined to be short term. She is Christian, he is Jewish. He is getting laid off soon and will no longer be working at the same company. He lives 45 miles away. She has little in common other than he being a sympathetic ear as a co-worker.