The cursing on the text messages has stopped. The e-mail she sent you back is very civil. I don't detect any hostility in it at all. That's happening!
I know you've followed my sitch, and it's taken a very bad turn, but if this helps you at all, the work I've done on myself is paying off in a big way. I'm hurting some yes, but I feel good about myself, and I know I'll be okay. DBing is really the art of healing yourself, making yourself a better person, and leaving the door open for your wayward spouse to walk back through if they so choose. The first two things are yours to keep, regardless if the third ends up bearing fruit.
Hi futureunknown -
I'm not pursuing, at all, period. What do you mean "that's happening!" regarding the texting, the E-mails, and lack of hostility right now?
I'm sorry that your situation is what it is right now. I hope it gets better for you. I'm better because of the work that I've done and are doing...that's for sure. I needed to do that regardless of anything else. I thought DB'n was about busting a divorce! I am just so sorry for the damage that I've done, and it's hard to deal with sometimes, especially in light of the way things are with us. And especially because I'm about a million miles away from being like that anymore!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
