You are getting a good grasp on things. The only thing I would say is that you should trp to detach further from his "stuff". He doesn't want you to be his friend now, so there's no point in offering.
He said that football is more important to him than his kids? I think you may have quite a mountain to climb here!
He is going to blame you for "ruining his reputaion". But, you know he did it himself. You did what you had to do to protect yourself. He isn't going to let it drop. of course.
I was wondering where you were from. I was thinking UK, but you had said some things that just didn't add up to that... so Ireland makes a lot of sense! Just don't tell me you have red hair and green eyes!
