I really feel for your situation dday. I too am awaiting our D-day on june 29. I don't understand any of it.
I've tried to stay strong by reading and taking care of our D4, and of course posting. My thoughts are up and down. I always second guess my every move and need to stop.
I haven't read all of your sitch. but I've asked myself also, would I take him back before the D-day if he asked. Yes I would. Once he gets through his MLC and who knows when that will be I hope we can talk.
Take care - I'm new here and not very good with computers
Me: 46 H: 38 D: 6 M: 8-2-2003 Left Nov. 28, 2008 - He filed for D 2-18-09 1st D-Day was 6/9/09 H missing papers FINAL: 8/1/09 done thru the mail