If you do file, it does give you some feeling of being in control of your life. I think the key to any hope of reconciliation will be how Dan's actions are during the time after filing.
I agree 100% with Kerry..I really don't think that there is much hope on this board fro anyone unless you are prepared to file..prepared to end it...that to me seems one part of drawing a WAS back in most cases...I think you have to show them that you are prepared to end it andf take actions to do so...
It seems that there are some WAS's who say they want out but never take the true actions to end it...they YO-YO...I think Dan is an example of that..I think Laura's DH is an example of that.....I think Racefan's wife is an example of that..
I think the ones who are truly done...go file..and file with their hearts ready to end it..no matter the fallout...ie..Kim and Gypsy's husband....and those are the ones who do not give a second thought to doing what they do...
