Wow Sugar...I have never read your post and now wish I had sooner. Lots of similarities between us. At the beginning of this post...I thought I had written it. I feel and have felt for a long time that a Reconciliation between H and I would be impossible. I think that is when I really started letting go of him. He and OW have a baby that is 9 months younger than OUR daughter. My BIL (who hated HATED OW) now lives with them. MIL has accepted the sitch even though we are VERY close. My thing was that I don't think I would ever trust my H to be faithful to me especially when he would go pick up his son from OW for visitation. I'm talking about IF we ever had gotten back together. I have always felt that H screwed things up soooo much, he could never repair the damage and I don't want to waste years on what if's and where is he ...where was he....is he seeing her....is he faithful...is he lying.

My hat's off to you for hanging in there. I wish you all the luck in the world and look forward to reading your success story. K and I are MY success story. I wish that I could have saved my M and my family...but, God has other plans for me.


M 5yrs
1st baby-girl born 6/18/08
Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego
H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07
D Final 07/10
OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her
Me, now - happier than I ever was with him