I did look good b/c I was "working" at looking great and younger (especially since the OM was younger than me). It was all those false "love" chemicals flooding my brain and gave me that "glow". It sounds sickening now.
My W is constantly working on her looks too. Sandi, it eases my pain a little when you say "It sounds sickening now," because it really casts what she's doing in such a bad light, and it legitimizes my hurt. What about it makes you say that?
You are a great person for hanging here and giving advice.
The really frustrating thing for me is that my W complained that I abandoned her emotionally, which I know I did SOME of the time, but I was also right there, seeking her out, and trying to get her to open up to me much of the time too. She wouldn't have it, and she used the fact that I wanted it as leverage against me in our M. Now in this affair, she's totally in love with OM, and she portrays him as far more attentive to her needs than I ever was, yet he tells her there's no way he'll move here for her. Somehow she doesn't perceive that as rejecting and abandoning her? That's the essence of abandonment to have tell someone you need them, and have them say no, not worth it. Yet she just continues to offer herself to him, hoping he'll come around. From what I know about relationships, her not sticking to her guns, and giving in to him, is making him lose respect for her, is it not? Sandi, I assume this is why you say she's in for such a bad time?
