Yeah, I was really starting to feel pissed off, but I knew that wouldn't help anything. Then I realized that she still feels emotionally close enough to tell me these kind of personal things, so that made me feel a little better.
The twins just go back and forth between "mommy's house" and daddy's house" without too much trouble. Every once in a while they will not want to go to W's apt, because they don't have any toys there (W says they think it's boring at her place). Of course, she does have some toys, plenty I think, but not enough in their minds. Then she'll get them a new toy and then they don't want to come to my place, but that usually doesn't last but 5 minutes and is over once we get home.
I think I managed to take the few steps back that were required to keep the detachment going a little longer. However, it will be difficult to maintain that during our vacation together. I think I will be emotionally as close as I can during that time, then be detached again afterwards. I've noticed more contact being initiated lately, from emails saying she found this cool photography website and how I need to make something like that for my photos to new artwork she's made and wants to know what I think, to new business ideas she's had and what I think about that. She texts me little inside jokes. She also keeps telling me about the people in her town that she works with, complaining about them, that she's playing counselor for this other friends couple, that she's getting pissed off at this other person, that she has to cook meat for a dinner when she doesn't eat meat anymore, etc... but then she turns around and goes out of her way to help them with stuff they could perfectly do themselves but are too lazy or don't want to do. I think she still needs to learn how to say NO to people, but that's something that came up a long time before the sitch.
We went to a concert on Fri and we had a great time. Talked all the way over there, all the way back, during dinner... Feels great! It's different from a few months ago, less tension, so I feel like it's a step in the right direction. Gotta see where it goes from here I guess.
She's suggested that we take the kids to this event this upcoming weekend, so that's nice. We have our vacation coming up end of next week, I am sure we will have fun then.
