WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

Purely as a devil's advocate, you could consider the possibility that you're walking it too well, that you're making it too easy for WAW. She can always "dip into the well" of good-will, so to speak, whenever she needs it, and this helps keep the wolves at bay.

Your point is definitely a concern of mine. My therapist had warned me about not having boundaries so I may actually be enabling her to leave easier.

My nature is to swing to the extremes of what I'm doing. When I went Dark/Dim, she said I was cold and mean and to the point she thought I had given up that the marriage could still work.

So now, when I'm with her, I try to act as if everything is fine and be the best CIPA I can be. When she calls all emotional, I provide that same level of support

When she calls just to chit chat, I try to end the call quickly but politely.

This is a very tough line to toe....