Thanks to you Karen and 25yrsMLC. I went to see the school counsellor today and he basically said the same thing. I wanted to find the language that I could live with, I want to be careful with my words. I don't want to hurt the kids or their R with their dad. I always wanted them to have a good R with their R, that's what started this whole thing. Me nagging H to be a better father. So it's ironic isn't it, I lost my H and now I am still trying to help his R with the kids.
He said I could tell them that Mommy tried very hard to make this work but it just didn't work out. I love you kids so much and will always always love you. Also to reassure them of the things that will be constant in their lives because they will try to test us. They will ask us to do things and we better step up. He said that there are families out there who handle separation and D very well and the kids turn out fine. My S9 has a negative filter so I will try to help him not feel that he is in anyway responsible. I love them SO much, they are such beautiful children. I really don't want this to change them.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
