Ok, time for some action. When the wife calls tonight I'm going to ask her again if she's ready to work on our marriage and if not let's get to filing. The heartache is unbearable. I'm not enjoying much of anything because I'm so caught up in wanting the wife to come home.
This is the wrong attitude. A) You aren't enjoying anything. B) The heartache is unbearable, C) It just sounds like "come home or else". Basically, it sounds unattractive.
Take the attitude that you are moving on, and move on, but just don't tell her. Consider yourself divorced for all practical purposes and behave accordingly. Start doing things to relieve this heartache and start enjoying yourself. If she came home now you would just be co-dependent anyway. You are way too desperate. Can you live without her or not? If the answer is that you can, then start showing it. Quit perseverating on the fact that you want a real marriage...there is no hurry for divorce, it's not as though you are looking to remarry in the next month or two.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
