Just found this post by gucci loafer on AlexEN's thread. It applies to me so much that I decided to reposted it here.
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
There is one big key............
SELF ESTEEM... I would encourage you to put almost all of your focus on YOUR self esteem... Working to the point where you say to yourself... "I am so great, I amaze myself."
"Boy, I sure look good tonight"
"Life is good"
"I may even be liking this single life"
"What did I ever see in HER"
"Who would even want to be with someone who doesn't want them anyway" (this would you be advising a friend who is pining for a woman who left him for another man and yet he keeps beating his head against the wall wondering why it hurts)
Self esteem is the key........ Seek it, search for it. You will find it. Make yourself happy. Let your wife see that you are ENJOYING life. Go out and have fun. Stay out all night with your buddies talking about old times..........
Keep working out because it not only makes you feel better about yourself, but also helps the mental sharpness at work, in decision making, in relationships...
Throw the kids on her more. Let her have some responsibility while you play and enjoy life......
Let all things roll off your back.. Let her FEEL that you really have let go. Be nice to her. Be thoughtful, but no hint of romance or wanting her back.
This is where your answer will come to you. You will then realize that you feel good enough about yourself that you won't need our advice, but will be giving advice to others. Others will be attracted to you like never before.
Have fun. Be funny. Laugh endlessly.....
That is the key. Have you ever analyzed men who are successful with women and why? Why is it the guy who isn't good looking and is balding and has a spare tire has so many women after him?
It is because he exudes confidence, acts happy, laughs and jokes with the women, teases them, and enjoys their company.
Start with self esteem. Seek it.
My self esteem was on a downward trend over the past years in our bad M, and took a major hit with the EA and Bomb. I have made HUGE progress here in the past 4 months, but can see that I need to keep on it.
I'm leaving my W alone with the kids tonight and going for a spin with the local cycling club - lots of fun for me!
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
