Divorce looming #13

[K4D]

Here is my question. She hasn't filed the waiver of service or final decree. I have not asked about it either. Stuck808 said don't ask about it unless I am ready to be done. I'm not ready to be done. I still want my M saved.

If I bring up child support now, I am pretty much saying let's get this thing done right?

Since we are sharing split custody, the L said I could be entitled to $600 or 8% a month of what she is making right now based on our 2 incomes. However, if I bring that up, she could say forget the 50/50 custody and she could go for full custody and I end up with standard visitation and paying her $700 a month in child support. The L said it could go either way. And since she has been the primary parent most of their lives, I could stand to lose on this one. While I have been an excellent parent the past year and dearly love my kids, the judge could look at history and make a determination.

Plus as the kids turn 12, they can decide where they want to live and W could go ahead and play that to get out of paying and again I lose time with my kids and could end up paying her. Right now she is saying 50/50 until they turn 18. But she could change her mind if it means her not having to pay to help out.

So if I do this, am I bringing the M to a close? And am I willing to risk not reconciling in the future because of this? And if she won't do it out of court, then am I willing to pay the cost of court and still possibly stand to lose what I have now with the kids? I have to admit the money would help out with theie expenses. But am I willing to say its time for the M to come to an end? I am pretty sure she will hold this against me and will never consider reconciling again if I do this. Right now she is saying that she isn't necessarily closing the door forever. But that could also just be another lie to try and control and manipulate things also.

I'm just not sure what to do on this. Do I write off the future?

Kevin