tjs my xh left me in Sept. of last year and filed for divorced in Nov. He also said he wanted me to date and go on with my life. I agree with the above poster, they just dont want to feel quilty and they feel better knowing we are doing the same. If you intend to stand for your marriage than do that "stand". When my xh thought I had "been with" someone else, he got angry and let his love show for me. Right now he is living with gf and plans on marrying her. He doesnt talk to me at all anymore since she moved in. They ARE in a different state of mind as long as they have op in the picture. It's like their past never existed. In fact, my xh told me as much. He said the only thing he wanted to remember from his past was his son. Very sad. Hang in there! I am divorced but I am still praying to reconcile. Have faith in GOD!
