Finally Fighting FOR Him

[Cautious]

I'm terrified of posting too much of my story. One because I'm a lot younger than most of the other posters here (25), and two, because I know I screwed up royally in our marriage. Maybe I'd have left me too.

I'll try starting with just answering questions. We have been married for 3.5 years. We have been friends for about 13 years, dated a little here and there, but got serious 3 years before we were married. The HS girlfriend contacted him in June of last year and he hid the fact that he was speaking with her/going to her house up until I discovered it in December. (Currently, I believe, he is not speaking to her) We only have one son (4).

We had several problems in our marriage... we had huge financial issues (bills did not get paid in favor of his instant gratification - resulting in the loss of one car and one house), there were anger issues - mostly on my part and sometimes on his part, we had quite a few problems communicating... still do.

I've been working in IC on my anger issues. We are seeing a family counselor to learn to co-parent, though H has expressed he would like to stop seeing her. H believes it is marriage counseling, due to some of the therapists' tactics. I asked if he would like to start seeing another therapist and he refuses.

I'm extremely discouraged, as I know I've done a lot of wrong in our marriage - nagging/controling, anger, etc. But I thought things were starting to really go well towards the end. Maybe because he had somewhere to escape from me to.