actually it was 2 dif thoughts...one was your comment summed it up beautifully

the other is seeing mommy condone what dad is doing by chumming up with ow

Me 53
H 51
OW 25
Bomb may 06
left june 8/ 06
ILYBNILWY (twice!)
7/6/07 H wants to come home
7/21/07 H comes home
7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW
now piecing in earnest