Cinders, I do believe that there are cracks in the facade of the love birds nest! I think she's not only insane but stupid to think that you would even discuss the situation w/her and you aren't even divorced yet.
If I were in your shoes, I would politely decline, but state that the children could join them if they wish. No, you do not need to be a part of that mess.
On another note, I've very happy for you! You should so much better and that may be part of the problem w/your h and his ow. You see, when we start to grow and really separate from them, they sense it and that's when things begin to bubble and boil. Cinders, step way back from his mess and just enjoy your life to the fullest. Life does come around full circle in due time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Someone like her does not deserve the honor of your presence.
speaks volumes.....might send the wrong message to the kiddos
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
actually it was 2 dif thoughts...one was your comment summed it up beautifully
the other is seeing mommy condone what dad is doing by chumming up with ow
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Yep, I agree with you all.... The kids would not understand why I would all of a sudden change my principles... and that is a bad sign towards them I feel.
Also, I no longer feel the need to question or accuse the ow. She is not important to me, and I do not want to help ease her conciensce...which is something I feel she is trying to accomplish. I guess I simply have no interest in her whatsoever...and that has been different in the past, when I wanted to get all the answers I thought I was looking for and thought were important...somehow, they no longer are...
Thanks so much guys for your input.
I will politely decline...and let her know the kids will be part of their celebrations.
Last edited by Cinderellaman; 05/20/0911:19 AM.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
things do seem to turn around a bit it just takes time she will lose him and you will play no part in that either way she will have to deal with her concious and your message can be non verbally loud and clear you wont be a part of them at all can I ask you something? Was the OW not invited to your home for communion party or is that an agreement you already have with H..Ow is not part of your celebrations with kids I am just wondering this for future events here if my XH stays with OW(who kids have not met yet) like birthdays? peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
