I think by going out your taking a step in the right direction. Just going out, talking and laughing...there are no expectations. You begin learning about each other again. If you shared somehting about yourself, your feelings about the sitch, maybe she will start to do the same as well.
My W enjoyed hearing me laugh. She said my laugh made her smile. So now when I'm with the kids, I don't worry about what to say or what not to say, I don't worry about how stupid I look on the dance. I just go out there and dance with my girls because they love me for me and me out there makes them happy. I know my W would say the thing that turns her on the most about me is when she would see me with the kids. I'm learing to be me again with the kids. She sees it when she's with us. She hears us laughing and I can hear her laugh too.
