Then I think maybe that's how she felt before she left the marriage. She tried for years to get me to see things differently and do things differently...and then finally, since I didn't...she concluded that it wasn't worth it anymore and she left and quit the marriage.
This is an awful way to live. The rejection is devestating.
You got it right! The typical WAW feels like she tried for years and years and felt the rejection and disappointment and lonliness. For YEARS! How long have you felt like this? Yes, it is an awful way to live, but that is how she felt she was living while M to you. Now, you are feeling what she felt and it's eating you alive. Another thing about WAW's is that they emotionally divorce you BEFORE they walk out. She was done a long time before you even had a clue as to what was going on.
I said all that just as a reminder to stop having a pity-party for yourself and stop thinking about "quitting" and giving up! Get off your rear end and go get a life. The more socialable you are and staying busy, the better you will be and will help to keep your mind occupied with other things besides your W.
BTW, I cannot believe how much weight you have lost..... I know.....bad diet, huh? But have you bought some fine new clothes? You HAD to buy new clothes......but were they "cool"? You have to look sharp every where you go b/c it is good for your self esteem.
I want to say something here and I hope you will not see it as me telling you to give up, okay? You need to try to live "as if" she is not coming back to you. Drop the rope, sweetie. That is the only chance you have in her ever having a desire to be near you again. You HAVE made changes, but I think she is preceiving something other than a self-confident man who is sexy, fun, full of life, and loving. I am concerned that she is picking up on the vibes of a man full of self-pity. That turns women off.....real bad. You must do something to get rid of that. First, forgive yourself and then move forward. Trust me when I say from experience that you can just beat yourself up for so long and then you see you are not going to grow or be happy and nothing is going to get better as long as you continue to do that. Okay?? I have read some of your posts to others and it is good. Now, go take your own advice....
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I know.....bad diet, huh? But have you bought some fine new clothes? You HAD to buy new clothes......but were they "cool"? You have to look sharp every where you go b/c it is good for your self esteem.
