1. What are the rules as far as H's access to the house? 2. What will we do about finances? Have H see L first? 3. What kind of communication is healthy for H and me? If he starts talking about himself, what is my response? 4. If H involves kids, ie. "I wasn't invited" or "mommy doesn't want me to come in"...how do I respond? Generally, how do I respond when and if he acts out? 5. Does his stuff stay in the house? (I think yes for now). 6. Do we have a conversation about what is changing? I think yes but willing to reconsider.
Off to feed kiddos. I know this seems him-centric but I need to face my fears one by one.
