What to tell the kids when you are NOT sure it's over??? A toughie. Don't say "Divorce" until if and when you know. You can say at some point, "mommy and daddy are taking a time out"...?? Just a thought. I told our d11 (then d8-9) WHEN she asked whether we were getting a div, "I sure hope not b/c I really love your dad and I know he loves me"....and told her when she asked if we were going to move again (very frightening), "I'll always put your happiness first when it comes to what we're going to do" and then stressed what would remain the same, like our house and her school and friends, etc. which for us was true.
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Ok, redo. I get the gist of it and it is pretty in sync with the way I communicate with them. I need to give myself more credit. And, I want to stop being so negative.
