Thanks V, I think I am willing to work on the M when I see changes sticking. I actually didn't say that I wouldn't consider Aug, the problem is that he has to give 90 day notice where he lives which means he has to make a decision in the next week. \ What I said to him was that I wasn't ready to make the decision for him to move in for Aug at this point. I didn't want the pressure of making the decision about the apt. I have been through this before with him in recovery and not keeping it up.
I will also admit that it is my nature to be trusting and forgiving. I feel that he has taken advantage of these traits in me - but what bothers me is that my friends all think I should D him. They can't understand why I would hang in there when he has hurt me so much and made my life miserable. I don't know how to answer for that.
Feeling unsure. But point well taken that if he is in recovery then I should seriously consider reconciliation sooner rather than later.
This is why I posted on your thread. I have been trying to tell fact from fiction. I also thought I am much more open than your W is and could explain her point of view.
