How do I not let this control my every thought?

[kat727]

Time heals everything. You can't have someone else heal you, but you do need to work on yourself to help the healing.

I did all the begging, crying, guilt stuff, the I feel as if I am disposable...on and on. I am sure all I did was make him feel like sh^t and pushed him away. I didn't find this site until 3 months after the divorce was filed. I am sure that it would have made an impact at an earlier date. Could I have saved my marriage? I will never know. It has been nearly 3 years ago that I found out about OW and he is still in La-La land. Would I take him back if he all of sudden snapped out of it? No. I have moved past him.

The man I married, had children with and loved has died. I don't want to know the alien walking around in his body because really he isn't very nice. He is still very self-absorbed.

You will get to where you are going in your own time. There is no correct answer as to "How long does it take?" Everyone is different. Just stay true to what you believe and grow stronger with each passing day.

kat