Thank you for the outpouring of kindness!!! Amazing, I haven't posted in so long on my own thread and here are all my friends, still supportive!
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just keep in mind that even your xH deserves some compassion
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How would they feel, be they mother or father, if their ex were to do the same, to bring in another person to act as a parent to your children?
Hey nocode, I promise you I have compassion for xH. I still pray every day for him. I know he is Daddy and nothing will change that. He has a very special relationship with them, and they love him very much. I tell him that when we discuss it. I know he feels threatened that someone is spending time with the girls, but I make sure we aren't together as a 'family' unit (me, the girls, and my new friend), and he doesn't attend school functions and things like that. High road. I can guarantee you xH will not be as respectful when it comes to things like this, but that's ok.
My new friend (BF, I suppose, for an abbreviation) is a great guy. Has three kids and divorced as well. He is a 3rd grade teacher and an amazing person. He is very aware that he will never attempt to 'father' my girls, as they have a father. He is willing to meet and get to know xH (to which my xH said "F that") and do what's in the girls interest. As a father himself, he is hip to the idea and the fear of having someone else in his own children's life (his xW has a boyfriend).
That said, I can honestly say that as long as a woman was a kind person, I would be totally fine meeting and getting to know anyone xH was dating. I would want to get to know them. At this point, who couldn't use another person to love my girls? I wouldn't feel threatened by this person as long as she was a rational person. If xH would get past his issues about me (I am thinking a little of this is about me, mostly about the girls), he would see BF is a good person to have around.
