How do I not let this control my every thought?

[Travis]

I'm just afraid if I e-mail, she will say, "well, I didn't check my e-mails today." So I call to remind her. I'm not trying to have contact with her, I just want to make sure she knows what's going on and has no excuses. I think about just letting her forget/play dumb or whatever, but then it's the boys that suffer if she doesn't get them where they're supposed to be.
I live in the country and one day I was supposed to see my boys and told my wife to have the oldest get off the bus at the sitter's and I would have my mom pick him up because she would be off work before me. I get a call from the school saying the bus driver is sitting in my driveway to let my son off the bus and no one is home. I'm 45 minutes away working! I call the WAW and tell her son was supposed to get off at sitters. She says that's not what I told her. Luckily, my daughter was standing right there when I told her two days before and was my witness. I feel like telling her sometimes to get her head out of her @## and focus on taking good care of these boys if she wants custody so bad. But so far I have done a good job of restraining. I just write down every stupid episode and give it to my attorney.